If our presentation to those we love is to be romantic it must be romantic. Richard Rohr writes, “Romance, it seems to me, is the risk and the adventure…the tremendous sense of daring and gift…that comes into one’s life when one is seeking something larger than oneself.” He continues on, “Romance is that sense of adventure and daring and surrender that comes into our life when we have a vision worth living and dying for.”
Much romance is lost in the confusion of details and inconsistent excellence. For example: To have a gift (flowers, jewelry, candy, etc.) that is excellent, and go to dinner that is excellent, and then riding there in a car with dirty gym clothes, stinky socks and clothes, baseball gloves, tennis rackets, Taco Bell wrappers, Dairy Queen boxes, Starbucks cups, schoolbooks and papers, an old loaded Pamper, the dogs blanket and dust an inch thick and mail of various kinds from a week or two on the dashboard… is not excellent, not romantic, not caring, not acceptable, and not good… and it’s ugly.
Don’t ever believe the line, “O honey, it’s you I care about this other stuff doesn’t matter.” It matters. It must matter and it must matter to be romantic. The presentation of romance is the desire for romance. Take it from the Great Lover who said, “Live on (abide) in my love.” It is the “risk and adventure…the sense of daring and gift when one is seeking something larger than one’s self.”
“Give, and gifts shall be bestowed on you. Full measure, pressed, shaken down, and running over, shall they pour into your laps; for with the same measure that you use they shall measure to you in return.” Jesus