Seth Lewis a pastor in Ireland wrote, “We are made for community, and when it isn’t there, it leaves an awful gap in our lives. But how do we bridge that gap? Where do we start? I know from personal experience how easy it is to chase people away by trying too hard to make them be my friends. I’ve seen the looks. I know how people can get awkward and distant when I get awkward and close. What I’ve learned from these painful experiences is that approaching friendship this way is approaching it from the wrong direction. I was trying to make people be friends with me, instead of focusing on being friends with them. I know that might not sound very different, but it changes everything. It did for me, anyway.
The idea is simple: Try to be a friend to anyone you can, in any way you can.
It’s a shift in perspective—instead of focusing on solving the problem of our own loneliness and need for friends, we can focus on solving the problem for others. Instead of focusing on ourselves, we can turn our eyes out to the needs around us. This way, you don’t need to wait for people to be friendly to you, you can just go ahead and act like a friend to them.”
I think this is wise counsel.
“No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you.” Jesus